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Quit Your Whining

By: Jessica

Today’s forecast consists of partially cloudy skies, some wind, and a whole lot of complaining. The room is too hot, now it’s too cold. Your hair is too curly and now it’s too straight. You didn’t get to play for the whole game so that’s the reason your team lost. We complain about everything: the weather, our clothes, our family, how we don’t have the newest phone yet, etc.

So why do we complain? For one, what better way to start up a conversation than to complain to your friends about all the homework the teachers give you or how your parents are always getting on your case. We complain when we are jealous, when we are unhappy, or when we need an excuse. We love to complain. It’s easy, so easy we often forget that we do it so often.

Sometimes we need to vent and get the things that are bothering us off our chests, but there is a time for everything and complaining all the time can get old. Soon your friends won’t want to have conversations as you find more and more to complain about. Complaining too much encourages laziness and assists in procrastination. Dr Robin Kowalski, professor of psychology at Clemson University, states that “They’ll take hours of your time telling you their problems-then they reject your help and don’t take one piece of advice you give them.”

Excessive complaining may cause more problems than it fixes. Using complaints to try and solve all your problems won’t get you anywhere. Sometimes you need to take action for yourself instead of waiting for someone else. What you say and how you act can also have an affect on others. Your negative attitude may begin to rub off on your associates. Our peers and children take note of the things they hear and see, and you may start seeing your own behavior reflected in them

A few ways to help you complain less is too try and stay positive, look for the good things in your life. When you feel the urge to complain about something, search for something to praise instead. Make a list of all the things that make your school, job, or home enjoyable.

When starting a conversation with a friend, try to start with something positive instead of heading straight to the gloomy department. Make it a habit to look at the cup half full instead of half empty. For example, when you realize it’s too cold to go outside, figure out all the relaxing things you can do inside. If someone cuts in front of you in traffic, consider the fact that they may be late to an appointment. Try to see things from another person’s point of view. Be open to knew ideas and opinions. This will help you be more empathetic. Make sure you are getting plenty of good food, water and sleep because this can affect your mood. Your outlook on life has a lot to do with how you react to things so try to stay positive and don’t forget to smile. :)

 

 

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